…but, it’s my blog, so I’ll post what I want! Bwahahaa! 🙂
I got a bee in my bonnet right now about something. Hannah and I went into the “big town” today to run some errands. I know that this happens a lot, but for some reason it has been bothering me more than usual lately.
We were at Goodwill and a little boy, probably about Hannah’s age, was throwing a fit and hitting his mama over and over again. I couldn’t quite tell what the trouble was, but I believe it was because he wanted the toy she had just purchased him and she was telling him to put his coat on first.
He was screaming, crying and hitting her. HARD. And I seriously wanted to walk over there and yank him up and bust his little rear. The mom just kept saying “We don’t hit, honey. Don’t hit mommy because we don’t hit.” If I was that little kid, I would have said, “No, YOU don’t hit. I do!”
And, just as I knew she would, the mom gave in and the little brat got his way.
I am sorry, I know that disciplining our children has become so unpopular nowadays, but I’m gonna tell you right now that we spank our kids when they need it.
The funny thing is, we hardly ever have to spank them. They know that if they do something that deserves a spanking, then they will indeed get a spanking. Lo and behold, they are both pretty well behaved little girls.
The girls and I were in the grocery store one day (this was when Katie was in half day kindergarten) and they were both being wild. They were running and screaming and I told them to stop. They did not. So, I walked over and snatched them both up and spanked both of their butts right in the middle of the aisle and right in front of 2 other moms who looked at me with disgust. To which I looked at the ladies and said “Yeah, I spanked them, get over it.” Katie was so embarrassed that she was spanked in public and Hannah was just mad that she got spanked at all. I will tell you that it was the last time that either of them ever received a spanking in a store. They know better now.
And I will admit that I did hesitate, just for a second, before spanking them in front of those women because I know how it is now and I know that it’s frowned upon by most. However, I also knew that if I didn’t do it, then I would be teaching them that it’s okay to act that way in public. Yes, I could have waited until we were out of the store or I could have waited until the aisle was clear, but if I would have waited, I don’t think they would’ve received the message as loud and clear as they did.
And that is not to say that they don’t ever act up in a store. But now when they do, I tell them to stop, and they stop. Because they know. My children are not perfect. They are children and I love letting them be children, but they also have to be taught manners and respect for others and I believe that it is possible to let them be children and let it all hang out when it’s appropriate and I also think that they need to be taught when it is not appropriate to behave that way. Like when you’re at the grocery store.
We don’t abuse them or beat them. We discipline. And in my most humble opinion, kids today are seriously lacking discipline and respect for others.
The girls went to a birthday party a few houses down last summer. When I walked down to pick them up, several of the adults that were there commented on how well-behaved and polite they were. At first, I was thinking “Do they have the right kids?”…but then now when I see the way some of the kids in Katie’s school behave, I can see what they meant. I don’t say that to brag on my girls, but just to point out that there are too few parents out there making sure that their kids are acting appropriately. It is sad, really.
It is sad because I see so many parents coddling and babying their kids and these will be the kids who grow up and can’t seem to cope because they think that the rest of the world should give a frig about their feelings. They walk around with a false sense of entitlement. Only !NEWSFLASH! kid, the world could care less. So, unfortunately for you, you are a big wimp because your parents were too afraid to take a stand when you were a child and make you mind.
I hope I’m not being too harsh, but this really infuriates me when I see it. It is possible to love your children and raise them to have a high feeling of self-worth without giving in to their every desire. I believe that it is possible to raise a child who can grow into an independent adult without making sure that they never have to suffer a disappointment. Life is all about disappointment, people. They need to know that before you turn them loose in this world.
So, in all fairness, please feel free to let me have it in the comment section – this is just my opinion, you are entitled to yours and I would, of course, love to hear it.
Stepping down from soapbox now…